Is Gaslighting Like Workplace Bullying?
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that causes a target to doubt himself/herself by making them question their own memory, perception and sanity. By using denial, misdirection and lying the gaslighter will attempt to make the target doubt his/her sense of reality or #sanity. The gaslighter will consistently deny or refuse to agree with the perceived experiences of the target, to the point where the target will only see what the #gaslighter is trying to convey. Very often the gaslighter has so many positive qualities that outweigh their manipulative tendencies-so that the target doesn't even know this is subtly happening.
According to the article 'Are You Being Gaslighted at Work? Here's What To Do About This Dangerous Form of Abuse (by Madeleine Burry, April 1, 2019) this form or workplace #harassment is more common than you think.
Here are some examples:
Your boss 'quibbles' with a report you wrote, and because the gaslighter doesn't want you to succeed, the gaslighter will sabotage your efforts here.
They'll change due dates and deadlines constantly and undermine your efforts with comments like you don't know what you are doing.
Your boss will say disparaging things, for example: "call you a liar-insist they know more than you, that you're confused and uninformed".
What do you do?
Ask other colleagues if it's happening to them also
After reviewing your evidence, if you can, schedule a one-to-one meeting with the gaslighter
Does your office have a policy on handling complaints about a manager or supervisor?
Whatever you do - it sounds like workplace bullying and gaslighting MUST STOP!
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